He got down on one knee, babbled an incredibly unique speech and then stood patiently while I looked around for the cast and crew of Punk’d before finally saying yes. My poor fiancé had a plan for the proposal but, while Iceland isn’t without its romantic spots, it severely lacks in areas that aren’t crawling with tourists. His plan was to propose on our Northern Lights tour (with 30 strangers present) but that was thrown out the window when we somehow became very lost in the middle of nowhere. A little known peaceful area in Iceland that we’ll probably never be able to find again became the perfect setting for our proposal.
He did everything right. He asked my parents for permission, he hid the fact he was even considering proposing and he asked me to marry him in a place we’ll never forget. He even managed to find the perfect ring and for that, I tip my hat to him. I am not an easy person to shop for especially when it comes to jewellery.
I like my jewellery to be classy, high quality and incredibly understated. I don’t want in your face necklaces or earrings and I definitely don’t want a big rock on my finger. Unknowingly, I had done my other half a favour by scouring multiple websites for a ring for Christmas the year before he proposed. He’d been told exactly what shape of diamonds I detest, what colours I won’t tolerate and how ridiculously difficult it is to find a ring for my worryingly small fingers.
If I hadn’t shown him exactly what type of ring I liked before we even discussed marriage, I think he’d still be searching high and low for the perfect ring. My dad took my mum to the jewellery store in order to get around this issue but if you’re set on making the proposal a surprise and are lost in a world of shiny diamonds, it’s time to find out what type of ring your partner would favour.
You could ask them the right questions (while being as surreptitious as possible) or you could casually steer them to the internet where you can spend hours poring over rings. My preference for discreet ring hunting is F.Hinds and it has nothing to do with the fact they have a certain ring that fits my wedding colours perfectly. Ok, I’m totally lying there, I’m drooling over one of their rings so much it’s a miracle my laptop hasn’t drowned.
My fiancé and I have been engaged for almost 6 months and I still take a minute to admire my engagement ring every morning. I can’t even begin to stress how important the perfect engagement ring is and if you’re worried you’re going to get it horribly wrong, you need to secretly tag team your partner into your search. Alternatively, if you’re the one who will be proposed to but are worried your partner is going to give you, to quote Chandler Bing, “a stupid gumball ring”, look at rings for yourself and throw your list of preferences at the person you want to marry. After all, that ring is there for life.
Disclaimer: This post is in collaboration with F.Hinds.